A strength of looking to others for approval can be a very good outcome that can come from pulling the best idea's from others. If a person is always looking for the approval of others, affirmation of others, they make it easy for others to have and express opinions. By always wanting to find out the opinion of others, theses types of people, me being one of them, end up with a multitude of counselors.
If a person has very strong opinions, then they make it difficult for more than one opinion to stand. I sometimes can land on this side of things too. In fact, sometimes when I have a strong opinion, I make it harder for others to have a different opinion because having a different one seems like such a conflict and a road to not having mine count at all. My business partner sometimes tells me that I am very difficult to have debate with.
Never the less, often, I find that I can get multiple opinions and that it helps me make a very good decision and one that often I can get the team to buy into.
The trick is to be good at having internal principles bring affirmation for myself and value the opinion of others allowing it to affect my own internal judgement so I make a decision that is best. This balance will help a person from making the same mistakes over again due to personal blind spots.
1 comment:
The topic was concise and to the point. I too like approval and have learned how to better receive feedback. For me, the slippery slope of approval is folks who are fearful of giving me honest feedback for fear of losing my approval or connection. Feedback is one of the most valuable tools of growth.
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